Episode 7: Ways to Prevent Burnout From A Busy Summer

Episode 7: Ways to prevent burnout from a busy summer

Welcome to the I’m a YM podcast, a podcast by youth ministers, for youth ministers.

I'm A YM Podcast is proud to be part of the AIM Network of podcasts. Find out more at adventuresinministry.com

DISCUSSION: Why is burnout in YM a problem, especially because of summer?

  • Smarteryouthministry.com says 40% of YMs are burned out right now, and 47% of YM spouses are burned out because of our jobs.

  • Being gone from your family too much

  • Not taking enough time off, working too much

  • Fatigue

  • Stress

  • Increased workload & less time to get everything done

DISCUSSION: What are some things you've done and still do to prevent burnout from a busy summer?

  • Don't waste time. Be as productive & effecient as possible.

  • Take a day or two to rest and spend time with your family after being gone on a trip.

  • When you're home, be home.

  • Plan your summer calendar with your spouse.

  • Stick to your calendar. Don't fall into the trap of doing everything your students want to do bc they are out of school and have a lot of time on their hands.

  • Go on a family vacation. (Kadee and I book end our summer with vacations)

  • Be honest with your eldership about burnout.

  • Remember to take care of your soul...in the summer we are so stretched thin that a lot of times we spend all of our time taking care of others and planning trips and making sure everything goes smoothly that we forget about our lives.

 

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Our first summer episode will be June 3rd at 1pm. "Evangelism in YM with Philip Jenkins".

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Episode 6: Yoda's Advice to Young Jedi's w/ Lonnie Jones

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Join us Tuesday May 20th at 1pm CST, as we talk about “Ways to Prevent Summer Burnout”.

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Episode 5: Ministering With & To Parents

Episode #5 — Ministering with & to parents of teens (engaging parents as allies)

4.29.14

TODAY’S TOPIC: MINISTERING WITH AND TO PARENTS

“Parents are the first and greatest youth ministers.”

Why is it important for parents to get involved in your youth ministry?

“Most teenagers and their parents may not realize it, but a lot of research in the sociology of religion suggests that the most important social influence in shaping young people’s religious lives is the religious life modeled and taught to them by their parents” (Sticky Faith).

  • How do I get parents on my team?

    • Be a Cheerleader for Their Kids

    • Give Their Kids Attention

    • Brag on Their Kids

    • Brag on the Parents to the Kids

    • Be Organized

    • Have an Open Door Policy (welcome to attend any youth group meeting or activity)

    • Encourage

    • Be a Faithful Follower of Jesus

  • Communication

    • First step in good communication in any relationship is getting to know the person...so get to know your parents. (take them to lunch, visit them at home)

    • QUICK TIPS: Early communication is better communication, Don’t communicate through your students,

    • Overcommunicate (What kind of things should we communicate?)

    • Communicate your vision for the YM. (Teach a Class, not on parenting, but on your Youth Ministry and why they are important and how they can be used, annual meeting)

    • Ask them how their kids are doing.

    • Ideas for Communicating?? Create a Parents Page on Your Website, Parent Newsletter, Parent Email Group, Parent Text Group

    • PARENT COMMUNICATION IS YOUR BEST FRIEND IN YOUTH MINISTRY

  • Be intentional.

    • Parental involvement doesn’t happen by accident.

    • Show specific areas where parents can be involved.

    • Let Parents know what you expect of them.

    • What are some ways that we can get parents involved in our youth ministries?

  • Be patient.

    • It takes time to build parents’ trust.

    • The younger you are, usually the longer it takes.

    • Another part of patience: What if parents simply don’t want to get involved with the youth ministry? Don’t have the time, don’t care, or don’t think their kids want them there. Just be patient and dont give up on them.

  • Pray for parents.

    • If you aren’t a parent of a teen, you have no idea what they are going through.

    • Have your students pray for their parents???

CLOSE THE SHOW:

  1. Thanks for joining us.

  2. Follow AIM on Twitter (@theAIMstuff) & Facebook

  3. Find us on Twitter (@eric_the_gray & @anglue18) & Facebook

  4. Join us next time, Tuesday May 13th at 1pm CST, when we will talk with Lonnie Jones about “Yoda’s advice to young Jedi’s”. If you have a question for Lonnie, send them to us at [email protected].

  5. You are doing a great work in youth ministry.

Episode 4: The AIM Project

Episode 4 -- The AIM Project

4.15.14

BEGINNING OF SHOW:

  1. “Welcome to I’m a YM, a podcast by youth ministers, for youth ministers”

  2. This podcast is a part of The AIM Network (adventuresinministry.com)

  3. Introduce us

  4. Big announcement -- new website launching on Friday at 11am CST, everything that is AIM will be found on one website (Network, Project, and some really exciting stuff coming soon)

  5. Big apology -- bad links on Eric’s old blog

  6. Big bucket list moment -- Andrew went to see the Cubs at Wrigley field, tell us about it; Eric went to Pelicans-Thunder game

 THE TOPIC: THE AIM PROJECT

  1. History of The AIM Project

  2. Our goal for the AIM Project

    1. 12 teaching series

    2. 11 devotionals

    3. 1 retreat package

    4. 2 camp themes

    5. 1 games package with about 10 games in it

    6. New content added weekly

  3. Today we want to talk about some series on The AIM Project and how we’ve used them. Give you some ideas on some fun stuff to do with these series, ideas to make them more impactful with your group.

Eric’s series:

  1. That Awkward Moment

  2. Top 5 Psalms

Andrew’s Series:

    1. Little gods

    2. “Let Your Colors Show” Spring Retreat

 

CLOSE THE SHOW:

  1. Thanks for listening today. The AIM website is down right now, but on Thursday you will be able to access today’s show notes.

  2. Just for our listeners, send us an email to [email protected] and we will send you a link to download Eric’s new series, “Top 5 Psalms”, and Andrew’s new Spring Retreat Packet, “Let Your Colors Show”.

  3. Plug the website launch again -- Friday at 11am.

  4. Plug the AIM app

  5. Follow AIM on Twitter (@theAIMstuff) & Facebook

  6. Find us on Twitter (@eric_the_gray & @anglue18) & Facebook

  7. Join us next time, Tuesday April 29th at 1pm, when we will talk about “Ministering with and to parents”.

  8. You are doing a great work in youth ministry.

Episode 1: 10 Things You Should NOT Do In Your First 2 Years of YM

Show Notes:

The “I’m a YM” Podcast is hosted by Eric Gray and Andrew Jenkins. It’s designed to be educational, encouraging and entertaining. The “I’m a YM” podcast is a part of AIM the Network, which is a branch of Adventures in Ministry. You can listen to our podcast on the AIM website or here. Also, it should be available in iTunes soon.

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Our next episode will be recorded on Tuesday, March 18th at 1pm on Talkshoe.com. We’d love for you to join us. The episode will also be available for download. 

Here are show notes from Episode 1.

  • Things you should not do in your first 2 years of YM

    • Don’t let the kids convince you to play Ultimate Frisbee in a Lighting Storm

    • Do not stay up all night before driving a group of teens home from camp the next day.

    • Don’t throw a lock-in with no help (Ryan and I and 40 teens)

    • Do not make radical changes (adding & cutting programs)

    • Do not try to be your students’ best friend. BE their YM. Be an adult.

    • Don’t always say YES

    • Don’t spend all your time in the office. Don’t spend all your time out of the office

    • Don’t reinvent the wheel (look at what is already in place…it might help you)

    • Don’t write off that kid that everyone told you was a problem.

      • Don’t make preconceived judgements on students (listen to what others have to say, but listen to your students as well)

    • Don’t make the parents look bad; they are your greatest asset (win them over)

      • Don’t teach a parenting class

      • Don’t forget you aren’t the parent.

    • Don’t forget you still have your own family to take care of

    • Don’t try to be like the last guy…you aren’t him

    • As Journey would say, “Don’t Stop Believing”

      • Don’t stop believing in yourself.

      • You’re going to receive criticism, but that doesn’t have to destroy your ministry.

Episode 2: 10 Things You Should Do In Your First 2 Years of YM

Show Notes:

#10. Marry a woman that can order pizza

#9. Find all the good hiding spots in the church

#8. Take some time off

  • Take an off day.

  • Take a Vacation

#7. Get the teens involved with the congregation as a whole

  • worship services

  • Greeting

  • Visiting

  • Counting

  • Teaching

#6. Build a balanced calendar.

  • Plan out your year, at least the big stuff

  • Plan out your monthly stuff 3-6 months ahead

  • Try to limit spur of the moment activities

#5. Find a YM mentor. Meet regularly. Pick his brain.

#4. Love those you are called to minister to.

  • Love your students.

  • Love their parents.

  • Get parents and other adults involved in the YM

Be intentional about building strong relationships with parents.

Four questions to ask yourself:

  • Am I spending so much time to teach them that I don’t really know them?

  • Am I so busy with the “doing” of YM that I’m not investing in the very lives and stories that are sitting in my youth group?

  • Do I really know the hurts, needs, and longings of the people I’m ministering to?

  • Am I helping them to see, know, and draw closer to Jesus?

#3. Teach the Bible!

  • Teach the truth in love.

  • Don’t get so caught up in current trends and behavioral issues that you forget to teach the Word.

#2. Continue to learn.

  • Bible study

  • Read other books (books on YM, speaking, commentaries, devotional books, etc.)

  • Conferences/lectureships

  • Podcasts, audio sermons

#1: Trust God.

Thanks for listening to the podcast

Episode 3: Speaking To Teens w/ David Shannon

Show Notes:

We, YMs, work with teens on a weekly, even daily basis. We teach teens multiple times a week. Yet there’s not many YMs who are keynote speakers at major events we go to. David is great at speaking to teenagers, so today we want to interview him on his techniques, lesson prep & delivery, and advice for YMs.

QUESTIONS FOR DAVID:

  • Is your lesson prep different when you speak to teens than when you speak to adults? If so, how?

    • David: Doesn’t change a lot, but when studying core principles of the text, he may call/text some younger guys and ask, “What is it that your generation wrestles with?” so he can make application that meets the audience where they are.

    • David: When speaking to teens, he actually finds himself studying a little bit harder and/or a little bit longer. Study down deep into the text, and then speak coming up out of the text.

    • David: The way to simply a difficult text is to study it a little bit longer.

  • How is your delivery different when you speak to teens?

    • David: Wants teens to know that he genuinely loves them and respects them. Believes they are one of the greatest resources in the church.

    • David: He doesn’t believe in “dumbing down” Christianity to teens because God doesn’t do that.

  • Walk us through your lesson prep process. Are you an outline guy? Random notes on a piece of paper? Manuscript? What’s your process?

    • David: I am an outline guy, for the most part.

    • David: Reads things before and after the text to put it in proper context. Then figure out what the main points from the text are.

    • David: Tries to be fair to the text and understand it before even beginning to write a lesson. Once the lesson is discovered, how does this lesson apply to my audience?

    • David: What are the key words, key teachings, what’s the key application to all of this?

    • David: Writes the introduction after the lesson is written.

  • Do you give each lesson a practice run? If so, what difference have you found that to make?

    • David: Gives each lesson out loud before he preaches/teaches it to his audience. Once the lesson is completely written, he gives himself 2 hours to go over it (slow and methodically). Helps him realize which parts don’t flow. Also helps in memorizing his lesson. Helps make smoother transitions.

    • David: Introductions are very important. They are an advertisement for your lesson. They tell the audience whether or not your lesson is worth listening to.

    • David: Half of public speaking is rich, deep, powerful content from the Word of God. The other half is delivery. People deserve a speaker/teacher who will give 100%.

  • Are there any websites or resources you use for illustrations?

    • David: In the past, he filed illustrations from newspapers, etc. Now he keeps illustrations in folders on his computer.

    • David: Anything he reads, he saves it under 2 or 3 different names in the illustration folder.

    • David: News websites, sports websites, normal material that you read.

    • David: Send an email to some good friends to help find illustrations on that point or text.

  • Speaking as a parent, what is the most important quality a YM can have?

    • David: Godliness. Real and right relationship with God. A great youth minister will want the children to become more godly. Not bigger numbers, but greater faith.

  • Share with us ONE THING that you think will change the way we speak to teens.

    • David: “Teach us to number our days, that we would have a heart of wisdom” (Psalms  ). Realize that you have such few opportunities to share with them everything they need to learn over the 6-7 years you have them in your youth ministry. Have the attitude that each time they come into your class, you want them to really learn something from God. Your job is to try to convince them to believe it and live it. Our prayer should be that this lesson could change lives.

FINAL QUESTION: What advice would you give to YMs in regards to public teaching and speaking?

David: Youth ministry is at its best that when the YM realizes that there is nothing more important than you will ever do than your teaching. Regardless of everything else you are asked to do. Put your time into studying the Word of God. Be prepared to teach.

** If you would like to hear David Shannon speak more about speaking, check outpreachbetter.com**